Friday, October 10, 2008

In Which I Meet A Girl

Moonspun has asked me a couple of different times to talk about how The Boss and I met. I will oblige her request today...

It was late October of 2004, just over a month into my sophomore year of college. It was my best friend's birthday, and I was joining her for lunch with one of her friends at the campus cafeteria. I was running a little late, and my friend and her friend had already found a table by the time I had picked out my lunch and joined them.

As I sat down, my friend introduced me to her friend. She was sitting diagonally across the table from me, dressed smartly in a light jacket and a scarf that complimented her long brown hair. She was cute, and seemed to be really nice. Lunch went by quickly, with me teasing and jokingly making fun of the both of them. We parted ways as we left the cafeteria, and I rushed off to class. Over the next month or so I had lunch a few more times with my friend and this girl, gradually getting to know her better but still teasing her jokingly as often as I could. I enjoyed spending time with this girl, but I was having problems convincing a crazy ex-girlfriend that it was over, so I never really let myself feel attracted to her.

In late November, this girl and I were walking together after lunch. She was heading to class, I was going back to my dorm room. Our shoes were crunching loudly on the packed snow beneath us as our exhaled breaths formed into clouds in the cold mid-day air. We paused for a few seconds where the walkway split into two directions and said our goodbyes. It was at that moment that I realized I had a pretty big crush on her. I did nothing about it at first, though, not having much confidence in myself after a number of failed attempts at relationships.

About a week into December my best friend approached me. It turns out that this girl had a crush on me, but didn't have the courage to ask me out. Like the complete geek that I was (and still am, really), I got her screen name and we began talking online. We set up a time to hang out together, just the two of us. I made her hot chocolate and we watched a few movies, not really paying attention to them but rather talking the entire time.

On December 16th, I was over at her dorm room, watching a movie as we had become accustomed to doing together. Midway through the movie, I asked her a question.

"Can I see your hand for a minute?"

"Sure," she said, looking puzzled.

I placed her hand in mine, our fingers intertwined. "I just wanted to see how it fits."

Still looking at me with a confused look, I continued:

"It fits perfectly."

That night, we officially started dating.


It's almost been four years since the day we met. I proposed to her on our one year anniversary, in front of a roaring fireplace inside a log cabin in northern New Hampshire. We were married six months later. It hardly seems like four years have passed already, and much less that we've been married for over two years already.

Regardless of all that, I'm lucky to have spent them with a woman as wonderful as she is.

P.S. Contest? What contest?


Moonspun said...

Yea!!!! The mystery is solved! I am so glad the you told the story, thank you. That line about how you asked if you could see her hand is priceless! What a great story to tell people and I can only imagine how she felt all gooey and sappy inside when you said it. Not to mention when you proposed in a log cabin. How romantic!
Thanks, Badass for sharing! Even if it took some prodding from me. Oh no, I'll have to think about what to bug you about next! :-)

Cape Cod Gal said...

Dude, that is so sweet. Especially the hand holding part! I'm blubbering all over my desk right now!

You and Daddyfiles are awfully sappy this week. Pass some of that to Big K, will ya!

Heather said...

Awwwwwwesome! I've been married to my husband for almost 4 years, but we've been together for 10 (dating) and known each other since I was 16, so 19 years. He's still cute. =)

Daddy Files said...

Oh sweet God...the hand thing worked?!?!? Consider yourself lucky The Boss appreciates the sap. My wife is not so easy. She hates roses, she laughed when I wrote her a poem and she's immune to pick-up lines.

But I would like to hear more about the crazy ex-girlfriend too. I loves me some crazy chicks!

Sus said...

That is so cute! I am such a sucker for romantic stories like that.

Miss Grace said...

Ah! Sappy! But, adorable. Of course.

Forever In School said...

What a nice story! That was a real geek's love story.

apathetic bliss said...

omg...that was very sweet...I love how you asked for her hand to see how it are both lucky to have found eachother

Employee No. 3699 said...

I love stories like that. Nice and sappy sweet.

I'm glad Moonspun asked you and I'm glad you answered.

Now I have a question. Does the Boss read your blog? Does she blog? Oh wait that was two questions.

Maggie May said...

soooo sweet. seriously.

Badass Geek said...

Moonspun: The log cabin was romantic. The power had gone out, so the only light we had was from the fireplace.

Cape Cod Gal: I won't lie and say that I had the "see if your hand fits" line planned, but I didn't. It just came to me... I'm glad it did.

Heather: 19 years and you're not sick of him yet? That's great!

Daddy Files: I guess I've got it easy with The Boss. She loves the sappy stuff. You should see some of the cards I've made her over the years.

Sus: This pretty much tops it for me. I've got one more up my sleeve that I'm saving for the next December 16th.

Miss Grace: Sappy? Yes. Adorable? Yes. It's all part of my charm.

FIS: It really is, you're right.

Apathetic Bliss: We are pretty lucky.

Employee No 3699: The Boss does read my blog, but not very often. She does have a blog that she started recently, but I'm waiting for her to decide if she wants everyone here to know about it.

Maggie May: That's what I was going for. I reeled her in with that line.

enthalpymama said...

Awwww. That was so so nice. What a sweet guy to "test" her hand like that. You have us all shyly kicking the sand by our shoes. Geeze.

So sweet.

scatterbrain said...

Aw Badass, that's SOO romantic!

A lovely post to start the weekend with. Thanks for sharing.

So unusual for a guy to get to know somebody as a friend before you become involved...but recommended.

Now all we need to know is your reason for nicknaming her "The Boss" on here, which I think Moonspun originally asked as well.

Have you had many entries to your competition? I thought the closing date was last Wednesday.

Badass Geek said...

Enthalpy Mama: Just like running shoes, a good fitting hand to hold is important, if you're going to be doing it for a while.

Scatterbrain: I gave her the nickname "The Boss" mostly because thats what I refer to her as when making plans with family, friends, etc. "I just gotta ask The Boss and see what she says...". I've had a few entries for the contest, but the deadline isn't until the 22nd.

Lola said...

Okay, so I'm going all BAD on this and saying that if a guy asked me that question, I'd ask, "Why? Are you going to put your cock in it?"

I know, I know, I'm a terror! Sorry, man. I had to take this in a different directiobn. It's very sweet, and I'm so glad it worked for you. You are one badass geek!

Lola said...

d-i-r-e-c-t-i-o-n! I have to edit myself no matter where I am.

Aunt Becky said...

You're SUCH a sap ;)

I mean that in the best possible way, I swear.

Badass Geek said...

Lola: You ARE a terror. Some ladies just can't handle the sweetness.

Aunt Becky: If being a sap is a crime, then lock me up. =)

Jen W said...

First of all, it's so adorable that you remember the exact date when you offically started dating.

And secondly, the hand holding thing..."It fits perfectly"...yeah, that would pretty much make any girl melt.

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GoteeMan said...

Beautiful story... and your attention to detail and memory are amazing...

Thanks for sharing... you badass, you...

J/ (

Badass Geek said...

Jen W: I remember the exact date because we celebrated each month anniversary up to our one-year mark. 12/16 will forever be ingrained in my memory.

GoateeMan: A true Badass isn't afraid to expose his feelings. Thank you.

Fitness London said...

That is so bloody sweet :)

dhea ezekielle said...

i am hoping that it could be the same story with me :)Congratz,,,

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