Dear Son or Daughter,
I apologize for not knowing how to introduce this letter. I'm writing this to you long before your mother and I will try to conceive you. You don't exist in this world just yet, but that doesn't mean I haven't spent a fair amount of time thinking about you. I haven't shared these thoughts with anyone yet, and I wanted to tell you first. Not even your mother knows that I'm writing this, so lets keep this between you and me for now, okay?
Your mother has been asking me to have a child (that would be you) for a while now. The part of her that people call the Biological Clock has been ticking very loudly for her, and for the past year I've told her that I am not ready. This saddens her, as she wants to meet you pretty badly. She and I have talked about you (or at least the idea of you) in length, and she understands now when I say I am not ready to be a father.
I'm sure you are curious as to my reasons why, and to be honest, it took a while for me to figure it out for myself. You won't fully understand this until you are in this position yourself someday, but the main thing is that bringing a child into this world is a huge responsibility. Your mother and I are still pretty young, and there are times right now where we have trouble taking care of just ourselves. Life has given us a few lemons, as the saying goes, and I want to make sure that we can at least provide you with some half-decent lemonade before you come along.
The other big reason, I'll admit, is a purely selfish one. I like the relationship I have with your mother right now, and I want a little more time with it being just her and I. I want to be able to enjoy some of our younger years together, to build our life to a point where the only thing that we both feel is missing from it is you.
I want to make sure you know that my saying "I'm not ready to be a father" doesn't mean that I don't want you, my child. The thing is, I do want you. Contrary to what your mother thinks, I want you pretty badly, too. Sure, my heart strings might not get as strong a pull as your mother's do when we see a cute baby at the mall, but it still happens.
You see, I want to feel you kick and hiccup while you grow inside your mother's womb. I want to hold you just after you are born and feel my life change. I want to look at you and see that you have my eyes and her nose. I want to help you learn to crawl, to walk, to ride a bike, to drive a car. I want to sit through tea parties and make blanket forts and scrub the crayon off the walls. I want to ground you when you do something wrong and reward you when you do something right. I want to watch you grow up faster than I thought to be possible. And yes, I want to worry constantly about your safety, and I want to be the one to provide that for you as long as you'll let me. I want everything that comes with the privilege of being your father, whatever that might be.
So, with all of that out of my mind and down on paper before you, I hope its not confusing to you why I still want to wait a little while to meet you. It all boils down to the fact that I may be an adult in the eyes of the world, but I feel that I've still got some growing up to do. I want to be as good a father as I can be to you, and its going to take me some time to get there. If you don't understand that now, I know you will understand it someday.
Be it with sugar and spice, or with snaps and snails, I love you wholeheartedly, my child.
Your (at-some-point-to-be) Dad