Friday, April 15, 2011

In Which I Become a Father

What a crazy week this has been. To give the full story justice, let me recap it all from the beginning.

On Monday, we were told by her doctor to call into Labor and Delivery to make sure they had space for us to begin the induction process. The hospital beat us to the punch, calling The Boss' phone at 6:30 AM to let her know that they were full, and to please call around 11:00 AM to see about it then. At noontime when she called, they were still full. All of our momentum had stalled and emotions were running high, and when we finally got the call at 2:30 PM to come in, we grabbed our already packed bags and were on our way.

The Boss' doctor came in after we were fully admitted and inserted the first round of induction medication. We were told to wait for twelve hours, and depending upon how much progress was made, they'd try something else. The contractions she was having worsened, but overall she did very well that first night. By the next morning, she was not dilated at all, so they started a new medication intravenously. 

After 24 hours of being at L&D, there was still no progress. The doctor tried another round of the first medication, to see if that'd kick things into gear. The Boss endured another day of steady contractions, but this time the pain worsened. Because of her fall the week before the nurses didn't want her out of bed, and she was limited to what positions she could lay in due to the monitors on her belly, so I did what I could to make her as comfortable as possible.

We woke up Wednesday morning to find out that she was dilated two centimeters. This was encouraging to both us and the medical staff, so they ramped up the dose of the IV medication to the maximum allowed over the span of a couple hours, where as the day before it took them over eight hours to get to that dose size. Her body was contracting like crazy, but after six hours she was not any more dilated. 

At this point she had been laboring for over 48 hours, and her doctor started talking about doing a c-section. This had been something The Boss had stated she didn't want to do, but after talking it over, she ultimately decided to go for it. She was exhausted, and after we talked about it in length, she agreed that the c-section was the best idea. From the moment we told the nurse the decision to the moment she was wheeled into the operating room, less than thirty minutes passed.

Adrenaline surged and emotions ran high. I made some quick phone calls to family to let them know what was happening. The anesthesiologist came in and went through the disclosures and warnings about the spinal block, and a nurse came in to inject through the IV line some medication for nausea. Another nurse entered the room and handed me a sterile gown, cloth covers for my shoes, a hair net thing, and a face mask. I changed into them, and before I really had a chance to truly process what was about to happen, they led us down the hall to the operating room. 

I waited in an inner vestibule as they prepped The Boss and gave her the spinal block. I stood there for about ten minutes, my heart racing and wanting nothing but to be with my wife. It took a lot of deep breathing, but I was surprisingly calm when the called me into the room. I was ushered to a chair behind the cloth curtain they had draped up around her, and sat right next to The Boss when things began.

It was only a few minutes until we heard Baby Badass' first cry. So many emotions surged through me, it was almost dizzying. Relief that the baby was finally here, love for my wife and my new daughter (who I hadn't even seen yet), and a multitude of new emotions I've yet to be able to quantify. I saw Baby Badass for the first time after she had been cleaned up, being examined by a pediatrician just minutes after she had been born.




Introducing, for the first time on the interwebs, Baby Badass! Born at 3:59pm EST on April 13th, weighing in at 8 pounds 5 ounces, 21 inches long, and with a full head of hair.

In the end, the c-section was a wise choice. The doctor who performed the procedure said that the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck two times, and that was likely why labor hadn't progressed. The baby couldn't drop inside the uterus because of how the cord was around her neck. We were later told that that happens fairly often and they can still deliver naturally, but in the heat of the moment, it was pretty scary to hear.

After The Boss was all put back together and Baby Badass had been weighed and measured and examined, so began the onslaught of excited and weepy family. Everyone got a chance to hold her, but the real magic happened once everyone left, and it was just The Boss, Baby Badass, and I. So many inexpressible emotions, going way beyond love and happiness and anything else I had thought I'd feel. 

It has been a very long week, my friends, but I am the happiest I've been in a long time. 

I have a daughter, beautiful and perfect.



I'm a father. 

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Have a good weekend, everyone.

P.S. The Boss and I talked about it heavily, and we've decided for now to not share the name we've picked for her. I'm sure a lot of you would really like to know, but until we've talked some about it, it'll just be between family.

64 Comments:

Maggie said...

Congratulations!!! She's beautiful!

It's scary hearing that about the cord...made me sort of relive the birth of my son. I had a gut feeling something was wrong and told them to do a c section...sure enough, cord was wrapped around his neck, could have been tragic.

Enjoy that beautiful girl of yours, and make sure to spoil mommy.

Phunk Factor said...

This is the most amazing thing ever!! Congrats on the beautiful baby girl! She'll be a doll, I tell you!

One Blonde Girl said...

Congratulations!

The Social Frog said...

Awww, beautiful baby! Congrats to you both!!

Carolyn said...

Congratulations! She's absolutely beautiful.

J-Bird said...

I'm Supa Dupa happy for you and The Boss. Enjoy the baby!

Employee No. 3699 said...

Oh Mike, she is beautiful! Congratulations to you both.

Now when you don't have any blog fodder or one of your fabulous stories to post; pictures of the baby will, I'm sure, be welcomed by all of us!

cbs111 said...

Congrats! She's beautiful.

Don't feel bad about the name, we'd all still call her Baby Badass anyway.

bama Cheryl said...

These are special moments and unforgettable memories. Treasure every second!

Ed said...

Congrats. It is a life changing experience... for the better of course.

My wife didn't want a C-section either but that darn baby just wouldn't fit and we ended up with one. I got the same seat and perhaps because our daughter's head was firmly down in the hips, it reminded me of alligator wrestlers trying to get her out.

Guy to guy, there are advantages to C-sections post op. Hint... there are no stitches to heal and be removed.

Aaron said...

Congratulations! She's adorable.

Kelly said...

Just lovely. What a beautiful little Baby Badass. A wonderfully well told story, Dad.

Adventure Spot said...

Awe Congrats! She's beautiful :)

Chio said...

Congratulations!!!

The Diatribest said...

So happy for you and the Boss. I'm sorry that she had to endure such a long, unproductive labor. She has got to be one tough cookie!

Clair said...

She is absolutely beautiful!!! Another benefit of a c-section baby is that your child is not born with a cone head LOL!

Congrats to you and the Boss.

Marni said...

So thrilled for you. She is beautiful! Congratulations

Amy said...

Oh my goodness! She's perfect Mike! Beautiful and perfect!

I had an unplanned C-section for my son and later learned the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck too. At the time it was a terrifying choice to opt for surgery, but looking back on it, the entire experience was very positve.

I am so happy for your little family. Please send The Boss my love. She is a little warrior...labor for 48 hours with no progress. Wow. All my best to ya'll;)

#7 said...

Baby Badass! <3 Grats

Scribe said...

Squee! That's one gorgeous Baby Badass! Congrats to you and your new instant family!

WebSavvyMom said...

-->I can relate to the long labor process and it's exhausting but so worth it in the end when you see your baby. Congrats!

Shannon Green said...

Sweet baby! So happy for you!

Logical Libby said...

Glad everything went well. She is absolutely gorgeous.

cahanbury said...

She's perfect. Congrats.

Little Ms Blogger said...

Congrats! What a beautiful baby and I'm glad everything went well.

Chibi said...

Congrats, guys - she's beautiful! <3

Maggie May said...

She's gorgeous!!! Congratulations!!!!

Sarah said...

Congratulations on a gorgeous little girl.

Jade Carver said...

Wait, you mean her name ISN'T Baby Badass?

:P

Congrats to you and the Boss - wishing you all a speedy recovery!

Chuck said...

I only have one word...BADASS! dude. Congrats on uyour new fatherhood status. Life will never, ever be the same.

Moonspun said...

Yea! Congrats to the new parents, and welcome to the world beautiful baby badass!

ReeAlity said...

I know you call her The Boss but after 48 hours of labor she's proven to us all who the "badass" really is.

Baby Badass is a beauty! Congrats to you and The Boss!

Jennifer said...

I am so happy for you! Such a sweet post! I hope Baby Badass sees these things you've written one day. :) Maybe put them in the baby book?

37422 said...

Awww! Absolutely precious. Congrats!

Jasmine said...

She's beautiful, congrats!

Grenouille Fille said...

Congratulations to your wife, you, and your beautiful daughter!

nova said...

Congratulations!

Anonymous said...

Beautiful baby! You and 'The Boss' done good. Congrats, enjoy, etc. It really is an experience that compairs to none eh? I felt surreal for a L-O-N-G time after each of mine were born. It's just so miraculous and unbelievable. Hope she's a 'good' baby for y'all!
Sara

Kael Hunt said...

She is adorable! Congratulations!

Tony said...

Dude, congratulations on your beautiful baby daughter. I'm so happy for you and your family.

Girl At Rock Show said...

I have to say. Baby Baddass is beautiful. Congrats to you and The Boss. Thanks for sharing this with us.

squareonenotes said...

Beautiful girl! Congrats to you! Our first is due in two weeks...hard to believe how quickly the months have zipped by.

The Tame One said...

She is darling. Congratulations to you, the boss and welcome to the newest badass in the family. ♥

Molly Louise said...

Congratulations to you and The Boss. :)

Badass Geek said...

To All: Thank you so much! All during last week it was great to have such encouragement coming from all of you. The Boss and I truly appreciate it!

Danmark said...

Congratulation to both of you for having a little angel in your family.

Ivonne Loving said...

Hi! I included this post in this weeks from my reader round-up. Loved the post and thought it would be super useful to my friends and readers. congrats on parenthood! Your life will be forever changed!

Writer Ninja said...

Baby Badass is perfect. Really.

Jen said...

Glad everything went well. Baby Badass is beautiful, congratulations and here's to healthy and speedy recovery for Mommy Badass, and sleep for you all in the weeks to come.

kristina said...

Beautiful. Gorgeous. Perfect. ;)

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